(from a blog post)

“And as a young woman, I learned just as fast how many men also think that Asian females are submissive, sexually eager and overly pleasing women whose main objective is satisfy their man’s every desire - especially in the bedroom.

My first day on campus of my freshman year in college, two upperclassmen approached me, but didn’t really talk to me as much as they did talk about me - as if I wasn’t even there.

“Dude, Adam would totally love this chick.” (Motioning towards me).
“I know. You know how obsessed he is with Orientals.”
“Yeah. What’s not to love?”
Lots of laughter.
“Hey”, says one of the guys, looking at me. “Wanna meet our friend, Adam? He would so totally dig you.”
Me: Stunned into silence, too shocked to move or say anything.
“Um, do you like, speak English?”

By happenstance, I eventually did end up meeting Adam later that year. Turns out, I wasn’t “authentic enough” (his words) for him. Turns out he didn’t want an Asian woman who spoke as much as I did, especially without an accent. (Not that I was auditioning to be his girlfriend.)

[post continued below]

Unfortunately, this is actually one of the more innocuous experiences I’ve had when it comes to being a target of the Asian woman sexual stereotype. Yes, it’s more than slighty disturbing when 20-some year-old college guys proposition me only because they’ve always wanted to sleep with an Asian girl - and I know this for a fact because they have outright told me (and usually “sleep” is replaced by a much more graphic and much more offensive verb). But it’s really disgusting when a 55+ year-old guy tells me about the girls he knew overseas and how sexy, exotic and hot they were and then asks me, do I, too, love sex as much as they did. Or the guy on New Year’s Eve, who at 12 midnight asked me to kiss my friend, who is also Asian, because he “can’t think of anything hotter than two Asians making out”. Or the time when I was living in NYC and my friends and I went to Hogs & Heffers, the biker bar that inspired the movie “Coyote Ugly” and is also the place made famous when Julia Roberts tossed her bra into the sea of existing brassieres behind the bar. Throughout the night, different men asked me to join the other girls who were dancing on the bar, saying things like, “Everyone knows you guys are the best and hottest strippers”. One even offered me money if he could see some “Asian _____” (I’ll let you fill in the blank.) I could go on and cite additional degrading experiences I’ve had with men who I feel have objectified me simply because I’m an Asian woman, but I think you probably get the point.

But it’s not just the men who fall prey to this tired, shameful stereotype. I remember when I was in my early 20s, and I was out with a group of people I used to work with. One of my friends and I were in the restroom reapplying our lipstick or something like that, and she said, “You must feel so lucky.” I had absolutely no clue what she was talking about. “It must feel so cool knowing that all of the guys at work think you’re so exotic looking. They probably all want to do you, too.” The sad thing about this is, is that I know she really meant this as a high compliment.”

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4 Comments

I’ve never had an incident so extreme. But then again I’ve never surrounded myself with a group of people who the majority wasn’t Asian.

It’s really sad when something like this happens.

A few of my girl friends have been in situations like this. Sometimes they’re too scared to go out alone. It’s really sad to see them scared and suffering because some guys are asses.

This has happened to me a few times. I’ve just slapped the guy.

R-tards