The thread about Asian men and their trouble dating (http://ningin.com/forums/viewthread/187/) got me to wonder if it’s something wrong with Asian men in general, like a cultural tendency or if it’s Asian women in general don’t prefer Asian men. I would like the girls of the community to weigh in. Thanks in advance :)

lol hmmm. I mean, I still see a lot of Asian/Asian couples, it’s just that interracial dating has become more widely accepted. Maybe because some Asian girls in America identify more with American culture than the culture of their heritage, they’re more comfortable dating [white, black, etc.] guys. Ethnicity isn’t considered an unbreakable rule concerning our pool of eligibles in this generation. Plus I’ve heard a lot of girls saying they want mixed babies when they’re older or something [hopefully...] >_>;

Personally, I’ve only been seriously attracted to/dated Asian guys… but outside my own Asian race. :P

I should edit my post to say that I know generalizatin is bad, but I was really curious.

armybratkat, do you see mixed babies as a good thing? I’m torned on that issue because I think it’s important for parents to pass on their culture. Having a mix background culture in the household makes it hard to do that IMO.

I guess it depends on the parents. There are those who identify a lot with their own culture and if it’s that important to them, then they’ll be drawn to those of the same background within their pool of eligibles. So I guess Asian culture will be preserved that way. But culture isn’t a constant thing with globalization and integration, even within uhm… purely *insert ethnicity here* groups.

Hmmmmm… as for me...well I wouldn’t mind having them later on ^^; But yes, it would be important for my kids to know about their Filipino background, but I’ve been around so much that I’m open to other cultures as seen by my dating history haha

Ok, I’m gonna stray away from the original topic here, but we’re talking about culture like it’s an intangible, abstract object. When I talk about culture, I’m refering to the language, the traditions, the customs, the history, which all together makes up the collective body and soul of a civilization. All of which you can pass down from generation to general. It’s well documented that in two culture households (read mix-ethnicty families), these things don’t get downloaded to the children as well. Language especially suffers when this happens and you see mix kids knowing “a few words” but not the nuiances and idiosyncroncies unique to a culture.

But as you said, I suppose all of this is determined by whether or not the parents care about stuff like this enough to want to pass it on. A lot of people don’t and I find that disheartening in this world. Yes, there’s more globalization and intergration, but it doesn’t and shouldn’t have to come at the cost of losing where we came from.

that’s deep

iPsD - 05/09/08 5:49 pm

that’s deep

real deep. seriously tho, everyone just have their preferences.

hahaha @iPsD. This is such an intense debate. :O

I naturally prefer Asian guys and would choose to marry one. My parents weren’t that tuned into teaching their ethnicities to me but after living in Asia for the majority of my life, I really learned to appreciate my culture. I want to be able to pass that down to my children and share that with my significant other who can also appreciate and relate to my culture. And I’m not talking about the guys with the Asian fetishes. That would totally creep me out. Not that I’m racist but in my experience, dating a non Asian isn’t quite the same. In fact, I dated 1 non Asian and I totally regret it because he would disregard my race by saying we all look and sound the same. Complete a** and biggest regret of my life!

So yeah...^^ that’s why I prefer Asian guys but a lot of reasons that I’ve heard about Asian girls dating white guys is that:

1. Asian guys are too metrosexual
2. White guys are taller
3. They’re cuter

All of which I think is stupid but also a lot of Asian guys seem to have confidence issues.

I think there’s three categories of Asian girls:

1. Don’t care about race
2. Prefer Asians
3. Don’t prefer Asians

and I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that’s the order you’ll find most. Though, it’s a bit skewed here towards #3 in the states.

I prefer Asian guys. They don’t have to be Chinese like me, but I just get along better with Asian guys ^^

Generalizations are bad. While you hear people say they lean one way or another, when it comes down to it, people don’t have hard and fast personal date rules.

I’m one of those girls that will date anything lol. That didn’t come out right. But I do have a slight lean towards Asian guys.

dating is hard all together. picky girls don’t make it any easier.

Most asian girls I know def. prefer asian guys

i know girls that like white guys but date asian guys

There is one school of thought that says that Asian men are always portrayed in western media as unattractive and de-sexualized people, and that this prevalent media portrayal has a huge influence in forming people’s opinions that Asian men are generally unattractive.  That the FIRST EVER romantic kiss between an Asian male and an Asian female on a prime-time network TV series didn’t happen until 2008 is pretty unbelievable…